Compassion / Warning

• Posted by Rev. Lisa Taylor August 15, 2013 - #  - 755 views
  This is to clear the air and insight to all sorts of scams being preformed on this site, you all have been targeted in some shape or form , here is my story I am a widow he met on this very site, I was not nor was I accepting attention by any man because i had just lost my late husband ,now over last couple years this man was kind and relentless in his pursuit of me, made plans for the future as far as in advance spending Thanksgiving with his family at his home this year as well as He professed his love more than a few times then wanted to know if we would live in oklahoma or Tn not if but when we got married , I fell for it hook line and sinker as well as other folks did , I started to have feelings I had thought I put away, and it was because of him, so wasn't so much of a surprise when we made plans to drive out to visit each other but dates seemed to be pushed back flipped around and I was as guilty of this as he was, I was even talking to his brother through out all this, well least I think it was his brother, anyway I had talked to Him the last part of July , told him I was free the 4 th of August , his words sounds great , had to work around some things so he had time to spend with me, we talked about movies I was going to bring and bunch of little other things , third came around and I kept thinking ok so he hasn't said anything about the trip, fourth came around and I decided wasn't gonna happen so I took off North then things just pushed me to go East, I drove well into the night , I thought ok both are putting off meeting for one reason or another mainly fear I'm guessing because I know I sure had fear, logic thought take the distance out of the problem, I text him and told him I was in the area and his response was panicked I have a doctors apt Monday and its pretty important , ok no big deal I'm not here to hinder him in anyway, he sent text a few minutes later it said he cancel the apt on his way over to meet me, I said no you need to go to the apt, he argues a bit said he wasn't going to just leave me out there he would be so worried, then I said well I'm not telling him where I am until I know he had time to go to his apt. Which his reply was we will see ttyl , i drove through Nashville and fear took hold of me , i turned around headed out again towards the west, my friend talked me out of running which took a good 40 miles to do, Monday i was up bright and early ,I go exploring around the area, 3:45 pm came around I sent a text with the information of where I was staying, no reply, 8 pm I start to thinking all kinds of crazy thoughts, I send another text asking if he is ok , no reply , then 10 pm thoughts of he freaked out ,it happens to the best of us and he didn't want to meet after all, I sent my apologies of shocking him and that I would be leaving for other places at 11 am the next morning so if he found a brave streak he could catch me before I left, no reply what so ever, 11am I left out and honestly was very upset at myself, when I looked up there was a sign with Loretta Lynn's Dude Ranch , I needed time to calm down and hey opportunity was in my face for about four miles, I relaxed and enjoyed looking around at a place that has grown so much over twenty years, then other thoughts crowded in , maybe he is in the hospital , it's not like him to not answer me, he could have even been given bad news , was he suffering alone? What kind of person would I be to leave without knowing he is ok. I called a friend and I was worked up again but this time very concerned, and I was not gonna feel like a low down snake leaving if he was in need. I find the address of his church , I program it in my gps , I wasn't convinced this was a good idea but I couldn't just drive away , so I headed over there to find the church and hope someone was around, but three hours later I'm faced with a whole lot of emotions at once, I am shocked to find out my destination brought me to a house, his house, I recognized it from the pictures and how he described it to me, ok anger first , then hmmm understanding ok hadn't really lied about anything but the address , didn't look like anyone was home until I looked up the driveway and a car was parked in back, I took a picture of the house and left , still upset and thought this guy played me, I stopped called my friend again calmed down to a small pain and thoughts ok he has reasons, and as understanding as I am, might be angry but I'm still me. Give him chance to explain, nothing can be that bad, sent a text with pictures and said care to explain ? No reply , I called left a message no return call , I refigure my GPS to get the heck as far away as I could, but stupid thing kept me in the area because some dang bridge was out, so I refigured it again to take me to Nashville, it worked , 2 am I found I had drove a huge circle and back to where I had stayed the night before, well too late to get on down the road I got a room, sent another text to him said would you care to explain things, I'm willing to listen. No reply , still something was nagging at me that something wasn't right, but I headed out intended to go explore other states but it didn't feel right so I headed home , loads of questions and no answers , thinking this is all a huge misunderstanding , sent a couple of e-mails and tried to contact him by phone and net, still willing to listen there has to be a reason, maybe he was in the hospital , here it is Saturday and I look for any replies , none but comments from him to a couple of post and one from MSN , so not in the hospital but avoiding in hopes it will all go away, I send him an e-mail with my home address said google it , I am who I say I am, honest , understanding, and would listen to what he had to say, even explained a story of how I met my late husband to prove just how understanding I am, I talked to a few people , one very angry so I had to take bits of what they said with grain of salt, but however a male name kept coming up with connection to regards of sexual orientation different of my own that happened to live at the same address , which is no big thing two guys splitting living cost both Ill , he explained this as I thought , he explained the blowing me off as I thought which was in the hospital , Then he says he was leaving for West Virginia to check on a job with a church , this concerned me because his male friend I was told had no family very ill and didn't have much time, my compassion kicked in and I extended a offer to this male to come to Oklahoma and stay with me , there was no reply , but at 9pm last night I receive a text well you all can read it for yourself ( Yes he lives in the same house, I have my own side of the house. My intentions were to buy this house, but I do go back and forth to Tn. / He is very ill and has no family. A few years ago he had another stroke fell in his hallway of his appartment and was alone nobody found him, he came to about 4 in the morning. After that I visited him, he was afraid he was going to die alone. I was starting a church there at that time. I had planned to buy the house for the church office etc. But I do live in one side of it when I'm there. Now that's the story.)( I have MS , I have had problems with high heart rate going into tachiachardia and Doc. Said to avoid stress and drama as much as possible so I try really hard because when I had that happen I made the doc appointment and went, they sent me straight to ICU at the hospital for several days. Now as Paul Harvey would say ... That's the rest of the story) ( Dear ***** I am Lisa Taylor , I am very concerned for ***** health, I know by reading your wall that your very ill as well, ill add you to our prayer list, ***** has pursued me over the last three years , made plans to spend thanksgiving with his family this year, then decided we should make plans to meet before then , so he went to his daughters , and told me had to change his number because of a woman named ******* we talked about me driving out Aug fourth and had plans in motion , then he started acting strange , and said fourth sounds great but I have to work to clear my time, well third came along and needless to say I ended up in Tn , Sunday night he said he had a doc apt Monday but would cancel it on his way to meet me, I told him no and wouldn't give him my location until he had time to go to his doc apt. Monday came around and at 3:30 pm I sent him my location , no reply , for three days I worried and also was angry , I traveled back home upset and worried , a week went by and Saturday he contacts me, by this time I contacted ******* and she mentioned you lived with ***** and said all sorts of bad things about you and ***** So I confronted him about it and his behavior , he explained you were very sick and had no family and you two share the house, no big deal there, I do the same for anyone, then he explained he went to the doc apt and they put him in the hospital in icu said his heart rate was way to high . He told me he has MS but didn't say anything else about other issues , my concern for his health is greatly and if he has bouts of illness how in the world is he going to take care of himself and you as well ? I came to love him dearly and do not want anything that's preventable to happen , and after reading your wall I'm concerned about you as well , randy just mentioned he was going to West Virginia to talk about moving there for a job at a church , this on the heals of being released from the hospital , are you going with him ? And if he decides to move is he moving you as well ? Is his health been bad as long as you have known him ? I'm just really just so worried and wondering if I should offer for him to come to Oklahoma and live with me and I don't know you but if you have no family and no one to look after you then maybe you should think about me extending my offer to you as well . A friend of ****** is a friend of mine , I just couldn't bare thinking you would be left alone. Please let me know about your thoughts on this as soon as you can , I'm adding text messages between ***** and I so you know I'm on the up and up about this.) yes text screen shots were added ( Lisa, I just got some information and you have got ***** highly upset and you are not aware of how it affects him health wise and you have just overstepped your boundaries. So from this minute forward, you need to leave us alone. We mind our business and I have never contacted people associated with you causing you problems so from this point do not contact ever again. ***** sure did not need your drama as it does affect him healthwise.) (.I'm not out to ruin you but when you sit there and flat out lie trying to blame me for your doings then there is where it becomes a problem, I'm as honest as any person can be, I am loving and caring. Very understanding , you told me about your health problems and *****, what would I be if I didn't have compassion . ) These were taking right off text and do have the complete three years on text , emails and messages , I do regret this blog but folks need to know what Catfish means,It is male and or female , no one really understands why a person will go to a great amount of lengths to fool other folks, but I am sure there is a reason for it, one can search for documentary named Catfish it ran on HBO awhile back , it will give a person insight on what I'm talking about, but when one is cornered normally they will explain their self, or simply vanish to prey on someone else, this catfish didn't vanish because he thought I was a weak person and tried to convince me I was to blame for his actions and behavior , the problem with his thinking I do live by my faith ,your asking why I am sharing this blog and I stress it is with great regret , I am now on a mission to help others that have found them self in this similar spot, and maybe prevent this catfish from preying on other widows within ULC and FB please pray for him because if anyone needs prayers it is this guy and even now I extend my help to him and his male friend because I know he got himself in deep with no way out of it and I do forgive him for what he has done to me personally and he needs to be honest with himself and others in his life because the lies do far more damage , if he is not aware of the dangerous game he plays then let me enlighten him , some people in this world and i mean the ones with weaker minds that fall prey to this and or similar game 1. kill them self or 2. kill the perpetrator , he is just lucky this time because I am understanding enough to extend help to him , if anyone questions the truthfulness of my statement I will be happy to provide my info as well as his for you to personally check for yourself , never look at just one side of any story , be a question seeker it is the only way ! Thank you for your time and if one is in need I'm hear to help remember that .