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HUMILITY VS. HIERARCHY?

  • SOME HAVE RECENTLY ASKED ME WHY I used the Title MOTHER or ELDER MOTHER as oppossed to SISTER or no title at all.  JUST FOR CONTEXT I think  you should know that  I spent part of my formative years  in a church which preached what I have come to call "false humility". They told people to look at the ground and to address one another as brother and sister but they would gossip behind your back and stab you in the back just the same.  To me that is a coward, not a humble person. I ended up leaving this group of hypocrites.  So did my parents especially because they tried to  encourage my stepmother to put my father down because he was a brilliant man who knew 28 languages  and because he was not an "ethnic" Mennonite but then they all showed up and tried to cry as if they loved him at his funeral.

    I THINK THAT we all have and need a healthy ego to be a CHILD OF GOD in my opinion and in my belief system. We need to respect the persons in leadership in our lives: HONOR YOUR FATHER & MOTHER.  HONOR YOUR BROTHER & SISTER.  

    I consider respect for one another to be important.  Ego is ego and title is position not as in hierarchy but as in responsibility.  It might just be semantics or difference in culture but I guess I believe in self-esteem and self-respect as a sign of mental and spiritual health.

    I firmly believe that a  title doesn't ask someone to worship me.  It simply asks someone to respect me and all the responsibility that I have been asked to shoulder based on the gifts God has given me to be a good steward of.  There is , in my "humble" opinion, a huge difference between a healthy and unhealthy ego...between hierarchy and responsibility. 

    IT'S NOT ALWAYS ONE OR THE OTHER...there just might be another middle option.

    HUMBLE PIE?  THINK I WILL...have a slice AND enjoy for God's sake (shoo fly is my FAV) !

    Peace to  All,

    MOM Nanhi.

5 comments
  • Tom Asdell
    Tom Asdell This was supposed to be a post on a poll, but the site won't let me play there... I mistakenly generalized some statements and would like to set the record straight. The poll had to do with the use of titles. What I meant to say was that for *myself*, ...  more
    March 12, 2011
  • radar pangaean
    radar pangaean I think there's nothing to explain. Anyone who has been such a positive, sober, mature, calming, loving, supportive, open-minded, and dignified participant in this forum as Mother Nanhi has been should not need to justify using a title that most people wo...  more
    March 12, 2011
  • Tom Asdell
    Tom Asdell Couldn't agree with you more Radar, which is why, if my post started this up, I wanted to apologize and explain myself...
    March 12, 2011
  • <i>Deleted Member</i>
    Deleted Member To all who responded and even those who didn't get around to it...NAMASTE (I honor you) ~ Mom Nanhi~
    March 12, 2011 - delete