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Peggy Androes

life's lessons

  • A few days ago, my mother called me and told me that she was terrified for her life.  My step father is not only 4 years older than I am, but also a convicted murderer, and also a heavy marijuana smoker.  He has been getting it from people he works with.  Mom has stated in the past that anyone that brings drugs into her home will be arrested on sight.  However, she is allowing my step father to get away with it.  He has told her that he will absolutely kill anyone that ever sends him back to prison.  He said that if she sends him back that he will not only kill her, but her family also.  So I took steps to try to ensure her safety, and she became angry with me.  For 2 days straight she called me, telling me how scared she is, that she is afraid to leave, she doesn't want to "leave her things", but she couldn't live like this anymore.  Now, she is well aware that if someone calls me while in crisis that I will take necessary steps to ensure the person's safety.  She had my home in an uproar for 48 hours, yet didn't want me to do anything.  She tends to do things like this, stick people into a catch-22 situation, where anything they do is the wrong thing, and she will become angry with whatever it is that they do, or don't do.  So, I have come to a decision, and I am just going to sit back, and allow her to destroy her life, and not do anything about it.  I will not allow her to put me and those who not only live with me, but also care about me in such a state of chaos and fear again.  It is not worth it.  The lesson I have learned from this is, there are just some people that you cannot help or save, no matter what you do.  They have to truly want it. 


    Bright Blessings



  • Jeff Austin
    Jeff Austin Prayers and good thoughts Rev Peggy.

    Blessings and blessed be
    Rev Jeff
    January 22, 2010
  • Charles Lee, Jr
    Charles Lee, Jr I've learned an even higher, more sensible lesson Peg:

    There isn't anyone I can help or save, not even myself but...

    I can forgive, since the saving parts already been done anyway.

    I can forgive myself for thinking people need me to s...  more
    January 22, 2010