We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, your school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change, you're the one who has got to change. ~ Katherine Hepburn
Oh how right she was. Even psychologists and psychiatrists tell us it's not our fault. The fault lies in the way we were raised by our parents, treated by our siblings, accepted by our friends.
Things happen, we rant and rave about it. Throw it out there on Facebook for all the world to see. Blaming the ex because he didn't pick up the kids, or blaming the school because they didn't make sure our child's folder came home, or blaming our boss because of a negative performance review.
There are so many things that are beyond our control; especially people. We can't control how they treat others. We can't control the weather. We can't control most of the events in our lives. Once we accept that, and learn to stop attempting to control others and our environment, then we can more forward. Then we can affect change. Then and only then can we make things better for ourselves. We must always remember that the only control we really have is over ourselves. We can only control how we treat others, and how we react to our environments. That is the path to positive change.