The custom or condition of having only one mate in an intimate relationship, of being dedicated to a single partner.
Commitment is what transforms the promise into reality.
It is the words that speak boldly of your intentions.
And the actions which speak louder than the words.
It is making the time when there is none.
Coming through time after time after time, year after year after year.
Commitment is the stuff character is made of;
The power to change the face of things.
It is the daily triumph of integrity over skepticism.
1. One who is not brave
2. One who fears many things
3. The most insulting word known to man
Definitions compliments of UrbanDictionary.com.
Hmmmmm, as I study these terms as defined, and look at the quoted words above that were written to me yesterday in a private conversation, I put a mirror in front of my life....again.
First, let me say that I did not join the ULC community in search of an intimate relationship. It was not my intention ever. Now, do I believe that like-minded people in this community may be blessed enough to find that here??? Of course. And all the blessings and happiness for those who do! But this is not Match.com. That's not why I came here.
I have never been called a coward before. This was a first! I'm having difficulty enough with labels, but this one...I completely get! And I am here LOUD AND PROUD to say, I AM NO COWARD. I have overcome some pretty painful aspects of human nature in my short time on this planet and while I may still fear many things, I am no coward. I fear that I may never find the depths of my soul that I seek for they are so firmly settled into the darkness that shining light on them is hard for me. I have injured places that need comfort. I fear that I may never encounter unconditional love in this world. I fear that I may never encounter another human who can be completely and wholly trusted. I fear that I will never encounter true comittment. And that, was one of the foremost reasons why I came to ULC, for spiritual englightenment, to guide me through my fears and give me hope. For teachings from others on how to look beyond the labels, the shallow ways in which we define ourselves, and hope that there is a level of tolerance and acceptance that can be achieved so we humans can co-exist a little better. I simply want the pain to stop. I felt like I had found a place where tolerance was the primary agenda. I guess I was wrong, as I have been called one of the most insulting words known to man by a fellow on this site.
Fortunately for me, I am secure in who I am as a human. As for the rest, well....still searching, or I wouldn't be here.
As for monogamy and dating, well, I think anyone who has been single for any amount of time and who has tried the blind date, the online date, the friend set-up date, the unexpected, wow, he took my number and actually called date, etc., I hope you will shed some light on this topic as I promise, I have no answers. I am however a monogamist. That much I am certain about, so to the person who called me a COWARD, you are incorrect with regard to your assumption of my character. While I have "dated" in the past, I am a dedicated person. When and IF the day should come that there is a human soul with whom I connect and a comittment is made, I will dedicate myself to sharing a quality life with that human. You see, twice in my life I have stood on an alter and made that comittment, only to be disappointed by the fact that I didn't truly have the other person's comittment. Breaking my vows almost broke my heart. I don't take comittment lightly anymore. And I don't take assaults on my character lightly either.
John 8:7When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, "Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her."
As this is a blog by definition, I welcome your respectful comments and questions.
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