Recent Entries

• Why do we want to be Ministers?

  by Kevin Quiles, MDiv, M.A. October 13, 2022
  When I was training to become a chaplain--a much recommended process for ministers, by the way--my supervisor allowed me and a few other chaps to sit on an interview. A young man came in and sat in the small office. My supervisor did what he did best, made the guy feel comfortable. The applicant wan...

• When Leaving is Healing

  by Kevin Quiles, MDiv, M.A. October 4, 2022
  Ministers are faced with many challenges, but one that sticks out is attending to wounded souls who  have experienced spiritual abuse. One can only imagine what it is like to have placed faith in someone or a group only to feel trapped, manipulated, and given an ultimatum. The mental and emotio...

• The Shadow & Aging

  by Kevin Quiles, MDiv, M.A. September 22, 2022
  Much has been written on the #Shadow. Some good; some not so good; some down right silly. But one thing I haven't often seen the pen touch is how the Shadow and #aging make a good couple. Maybe this is why the late Swiss psychiatrist, Carl Jung, saw the integration of the Shadow having priority duri...

• Breathing into Aging

  by Kevin Quiles, MDiv, M.A. September 14, 2022
  Recently, I shared with someone that because of my previous years working with the aging and dying, I feel like I've aged and died a few times. Today at 59 and with Medicare looming closer to my name, I don't have to reach far back to understand this thing called aging. We live in a culture that pu...

• Spirituality & Impermanence

  by Kevin Quiles, MDiv, M.A. September 11, 2022
  Looking back at fifty-nine to my work as chaplain, minister, and in military, I realize that it is too sobering for any mind to think of things--life, us, and events--as just going on and on. It even feels like we will live forever...well, almost. Perhaps this is why spiritual traditions throughout ...